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Question: I have been dating my boyfriend for six years. We are now engaged. During the first 6 months we dated I kissed 4 guys... while I was out drinking with friends - only kissing! (I know that is no excuse). Now that we are engaged I feel very guilty. I am wondering if I should tell him. But that would hurt him and he might break off our engagement. It would only make me fell less guilty. What should I do?
Answers:
Ms. Mystery: First, stop drinking so you can control yourself. Do not tell your fiance. You are right,
that will only ease you guilt and make him fell like shit. That is
utterly selfish. What you did in the first six months doesn't matter
now.
I have to ask. Why on earth have you and your fiance been together for six
years and still not married? Is he dragging his feet or are you? Unless one of you has been off to war, one of
you is delaying the marriage. Are you sure the two of you aren't right for
each other? If he's dragging his feet you should break up and find
someone who knows they want you and will make you happy. If you are dragging your feet, then same
thing. Break up and go out there and find the right guy for you.
Mr. Know: The good news is you didn't have sex with them. No, you shouldn't have kissed those guys. But telling your fiance now will only piss him off and make him distrust you. If this is the only problem you have with your fiance right now, count yourself blessed. Wow. Tell me you're not beating your head over this against the wall. Since you can't handle this incredibly unbelievable disgusting sin, I highly suggest you do the following (a) find a quiet place and bring your dog with you, if you don't have a dog, borrow on from your neighbor, and confess to your dog; (b) I know you think I may be making fun of you here, but please do me a favor. Don't see go see a therapist over this. If you must, go to a Catholic priest, regardless of whether you are Catholic or not. Confess your sin, he'll probably give you about four "Hail Mary's" and you'll be just fine. By the way, don't be drinking anymore, because it appears that when you drink you have a tendency to act like a slut, even when you're not.
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