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Question: I just broke up with my boyfriend of three years and I'm dying inside. I love him so much, but every time we got into a fight I was so upset I threatened to leave him. This time he told me to go and made me move out. I want to get back together more than anything. I still have furniture at his house and have stayed there several nights since we broke up. How can we break this cycle of fights? Or are we not meant to be together? I call him twice as many times as he calls me. He is jealous and says he still cares, but we aren't back together. I hate this situation. How can I win him back? - Homeless in Seattle

Answers:
Ms. Mystery:  You are miserable because you are in an uncertain and awkward situation. You don't know where you stand with him and it's driving you crazy. It's also making you desperate which is no way to get a man back.

First, back off and stop calling him all the time. Stop chasing him. Never call him more often than he calls you. Let him take the lead. You need to grow up and learn how to handle arguments with him without threatening to leave him all the time. How do you think he felt? Probably insecure like you feel right now, so you are getting a taste of your own medicine.

Second, apologize to him for threatening to move out when you argue. Tell him you realize you were immature and that you understand why he got fed up and pushed you away. He needs a woman he can count on. Look inside yourself to decide if you can be that for him. Don't be in such a hurry to move back into his house.  Find something else to occupy your time until you are less crazy and desperate. Pulling back is the only way to win him back. Going after him will only push him away for good.

Mr. Know:  Dear furniture gal, is this a trick question or what? It is so basically simple that I am listening to Eminem, watching American Idol, cruising the internet and doing bench presses while answering this "extremely perplexing" question. The answer is:

It is over, stop being a drama queen. He doesn't love you like you love him, which is sad. But this is the best thing that could have happened to you. This guy actually did you a favor because you only invested three years into him and you can move on and find the right man for you. I feel deep down in your heart, you are a very sweet, nice considerate soul.  By the way, go get your furniture too.