My Girl's in Iraq. Should I Wait for Her?

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Question: My girlfriend is in the Marines and is going to be gone for three months. I will not be able to talk to her on the phone. We can only contact each other by mail. She leaves today for Iraq. I love her a lot, but I don't want to be sad or depressed that she's gone. We've dated for two months and I'm in love. She's leaving so we can start a life together and so she can take care of me. I support her too. Do you think I should wait for her?

Answers:
Mr. Know: Dude! You are weird. You're deeply in love with her. She left today and you are asking us if you should wait for for only 3 months? There's something seriously wrong with you or your relationship with her. Let me get this straight, she's going to Iraq to fight a war that 66% of Americans disapprove of, she's risking her life for America, so that she can take care of you? I wish she could see your question here. Bottom line: She's a hero and you're a loser.

Answers:
Ms. Mystery: I agree with Mr. Know. She hasn't even left and you are already wondering??  You are only worried about being lonely and depressed, while she's off risking her life?! You don't love her at all. You're too afraid to be lonely.

But, on the other hand, perhaps you are afraid she won't come back. Realize that the odds are very much in her favor. Don't be so worried about her that you reject her. She needs your

support. My nephew's girlfriend was so worried when he went to Iraq the first time that she never talked to him again! But he found somebody else and got married. He went back to Iraq today as well. You can talk by phone, by email, instant messages. I talked to my nephew like that. If you love her, wait. If you don't, don't bother. She's tough and will be fine either way.