Is 20 Yrs Too Much Spread in Dating?

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Question: I have a guy friend I only know online. I have decided to end the friendship. He told me he had a one year relationship with an 18 year old girl and that last week he let another 18 year old girl take him out to dinner. He called this new girl "his sweetie". I find this repulsive. What on Earth can they have in common? She's just a kid. Maybe it's because I have a 13 year old daughter, but I find it disgusting.

I told this guy I can't be friends with anyone his age who hangs out with or dates women who are barely legal. He was extremely defensive, which makes me think I'm correct about it being wrong. I've only talked to this man online, but he has told that he's in love with me. I told him I only I like him only as a friend. He keeps asking to come visit me in person, but I'm really not interested in meeting him. I keep putting him off. What do others think about a 42-year-old hanging out with 18 to 22 year olds?

Answers:
Ms. Mystery: Guys his age dating women that much younger are insecure. We can only hope it's a phase where they are trying to recapture their youth. When I was 18, sure older guys were always hitting on me or flirting and I thought it was a

joke! The only girls I have ever known who were into dating guys old enough to be their dad had serious issues and were searching for a father figure. Most of these girls were sexually abused.

There are older guys have a psychological need for younger women for whatever reason,  and there are younger women who need older guys for some reason. That's their deal, you don't need to be involved. And what's this about him being in love with you? Lose this guy's e-mail or IM name, or whatever, fast!

Mr. Know: This guy is definitely going through a mid-life crisis. He's trying to relive his youth. Don't judge him so harshly, unless you truly know his problems. If you're 40 and dating a 20 year old, that is a huge difference. Age should not be a factor in relationships, but it is. What's more worrisome to me is that this guy is telling you he loves you when he's never met you. That spells major trouble. He has serious issues you haven't discovered and you need to run like the wind. Good luck and Godspeed.