Should He Forgive Her for Affair?

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Question: I cheated on my boyfriend of five years. I felt terrible and was very depressed for a while. I kept my stress to myself, but then my boyfriend found out. He was crushed and I went back home to be with my family for a while in order to work things out, I know it will take time, but now everyone knows what I did. I know I must face my mistakes, but I'm worried about what his family thinks. I don't want them to think that i would ever anything like that again. My boyfriend and I are spending more time together. We love each other, but both know it will take time to heal things. What can I do to make things better?

Answers:
Mr. Know:  Don't worry about what his family might think. What really matters is what he thinks. Spending time together without any pressure is the right approach. What's going to be

important is to figure out whether you can both move forward after this tough situation. You have a 50/50 chance. Good luck and Godspeed.

Ms. Mystery: What is done cannot be undone, but eventually you will both forget and so will his family (Sorry, but his family may take longer). The most important thing is your feelings for each other. If you haven't already, you and he should discuss why this happened between you. Maybe you weren't ready to settle down and now you are. It sounds like he's ready to forgive you and loves you. All you can do is your best from this point forward. It will take some time to earn back his trust.

Comments

[mike]

The first question you should be asking yourself is why you did what you did. Now i'm not saying your going to come to full blown 100% answer to this question. But if you get yourself to a point where you mostly understand why you did what you did, you'll save yourself (sometimes our heads are jerks) and with that, possibly your relationship.

-Reply from Ms. Mystery and Mr. Know. You are exactly right. If they both understand they'll avoid the same problem in the future.