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Question: I have a guy friend who I've known for several years. We talk a lot and and I really like him. My problem is that I don't know what he thinks or wants. We talk nearly every day on the phone. Last week we spent two evenings together. One of those nights he was drinking and told me he cares about me and he wants to be with me. I told him it was just the alcohol talking and blew him off. What do I do? I really like this guy, but I don't know what to think. I don't want to be pushy! What should I do?
Answers:
Ms. Mystery: This is an easy one! I've answered this one so many
times to my girlfriends. First of all, alcohol lowers your inhibitions, so you say the things that you are afraid to
say when you are sober. You tell the truth. Believe it, he really does
care and wants to be with you!
The #1 thing that screws up love is FEAR! He had fear of telling you how he felt until he had a few drinks. Now you have fear that he didn't mean what he said and are afraid of
rejection. Your are both afraid of rejection... just like everyone else.
Here are a few ideas. Ask him teasingly if he meant what he said to get the ball rolling. Ask him to do something with you, see what happens and start hanging around him more. Or you can both have a few drinks so you can get over your fears; however even if you got together, the fear would come back for both of you the next day.
Do not let fear stand in the way. This guy cares about you. Find a way to show him you care about him too. Just grab him and give him a kiss!
Mr. Know: This is simple! The guy finally gets the courage to tell you he likes you. If I was there, I'd smack you over the head (kidding!). All you have to do is tell him that you like him too. You can bring up that night. Good luck and Godspeed.
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