How to Tell if He's Serious

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Question: I'm casually seeing a guy, but I want it to be more. I'm not sure is he wants more. I can't just ask him what he wants. How can I tell if he's serious or this is just a fling? Are there some signs to look for?

Answers:
Ms. Mystery: Hey, girl! Slow down. The guy is the one who usually takes the lead. Guys love to take the lead, so you need to make him chase you. Don't start chasing him and wanting more or you'll only chase him away. And don't always answer your phone when he calls. Don't always be available. I'm sure you have a life and don't sit around waiting for him. Guys love the chase. NEVER EVER forget that.

And if he is serious, here's the clue: He'll talk about doing things with you in the future. That means next weekend, tomorrow, next Spring, anything.

Mr. Know: Wow, you're giving me a big headache. I'm going to have to have a drink just listening to you psychobabble. Stop mental masturbating. You're already trying to get serious, or married without even knowing if you really like the guy. He could end up being a total jerk after the first few dates, or he could be prince charming. I don't know how old you are, but if you are under 30, have some fun! Forget about being serious.

The easiest way to solve your psycho-babble dilemma is just to ask him. Guys love when girls are direct. Ask him if he wants to date or just have fun. But don't ask if he is serious about you. That will scare him.