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Question: For two years I dated a wonderful girl. She was the woman of my dreams. We got into a small fight when I saw her talking to an old boyfriend. She said she's not sure she loves me and broke up with me.

She is leaving to go to college and tells me she doesn't want to be tied down. I understand that, but I'm miserable without her. She told me she love me when I last saw her.

I haven't talked to her in two weeks. Do you have any advice on how to get her back?

Answers:
Ms. Mystery: This is life. She's not ready for a long-term relationship, and you are. The timing is off and there's nothing you can do right now other than to let her go. If you chase her you risk pushing her away and losing her forever. Have you heard that old saying "If you love someone and you set them free, they will come back if they belonged to you. If they don't

come back, they were never yours." College is a big step and she's gone for now. Be happy for her and go on with your life for now. It always seems like the world will end when your heart is broken. But believe me, there's always someone else lurking around the corner to break your heart again... until you are both ready at the same time.

I was in exactly her situation when I went off for college. I was dating a wonderful guy who loved me. As much as I didn't want to hurt him, there was no avoiding it. He wanted to get married. I wanted to go off and be on my own and date other people. I wanted to see what life was all about. He did the wrong thing and pursued me and it drove me away forever. Don't make that mistake.

Mr. Know: Dude, it's over. She's going off to college. She's breaking up with you because she wants to explore new relationships. You have a lot of years ahead of you. The best thing for you to do is keep in touch and maybe someday, when all of the stars are aligned right, you might reconnect. Your other option is to enroll in the same college as she does and become a stalker (not a good option). You are young enough to see if there are other fishes in the sea that might be better for you. Good luck and God speed.