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Lying and Online Dating

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Question: I have always wanted someone to love but have never really dated. I had a troubled childhood. Abusive parents and sexually abused by my older brothers. It was such hell that during the abuse I would pretend to be somewhere else. I feel so dirty and ashamed about my life and what has happened to me that started lying to everyone in my life during my teens. I never let anyone get close to me because I was afraid they'd learn the truth and that they'd reject me sexually if they knew the truth.

I am in my mid twenties and am lonely so I started chatting online to meet a potential mate. I started enjoying the discussions and actually met someone after a few weeks who I like. This person was closed at first, like I am. Then they opened up and I feel like they are just like me. The only problem is that I haven't opened up to them. I have lied about where I came from, where I work everything except my true

Help! I'm Commitment-Phobic

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Question: I have a big problem with commitment. I am a 31 year old woman. I have confidence and other people tell me I'm an outgoing and pleasing person. However, I have a problem committing to my relationships.

I have been in 5 'committed' relationships, between one and four years long. But after the first couple of months I get bored, then I'm unfaithful and find a way to get out of the relationship. I've always made sure my partners get the blame and make them feel guilty, but I know the problem is me.

After I leave them I miss them and feel bad about what I have done. I call them, but in the meantime have a new 'lover'. I end up in a situation of having a 'committed' relationship with a man, while still phoning, visiting and having sex with my previous partner. I can not carry on like this anymore. Last night I 'dumped' my partner only to be with someone 'new' I met two weeks ago at a friend's place. I am still uncertain about going back to my previous, previous partner. Please help!

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Ms. Mystery: You do have a problem. Perhaps you just aren't a person who should be committed and you should start being up front about it instead of hurting these guys. Just face it, you may never find the right guy. However if you do eventually want to get married, you will need to stop what you are doing and be faithful. Perhaps you jump from one relationship to the

Should I Divorce Him?

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Question: Is it reasonable to want out of this marriage? My husband of 4 years suffers from depression. I made him get treatment when I found out I was pregnant. Now our baby is 8 months old. My husband has been on medication and in therapy for a year and I'm not sure it's working.

He is more pleasant and manages his anger, but he talks about suicide often. On Friday he was fired from job. This is the second time in a year. We are in a financial bind and may lose our house.

First of all, I can't stand the stress of another financial disaster, after the first time he was fired. Second, I am worried about our baby being around such an unstable person, even though he treats our child wonderfully. Should I get out of this relationship?

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Mr. Know: Just reading your question, I wanted to shoot myself. I'm going to give you some blunt answers. You may not