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Question: Is it reasonable to want out of this marriage? My husband of 4 years suffers from depression. I made him get treatment when I found out I was pregnant. Now our baby is 8 months old. My husband has been on medication and in therapy for a year and I'm not sure it's working.

He is more pleasant and manages his anger, but he talks about suicide often. On Friday he was fired from job. This is the second time in a year. We are in a financial bind and may lose our house.

First of all, I can't stand the stress of another financial disaster, after the first time he was fired. Second, I am worried about our baby being around such an unstable person, even though he treats our child wonderfully. Should I get out of this relationship?

Answers:
Mr. Know: Just reading your question, I wanted to shoot myself. I'm going to give you some blunt answers. You may not

like them, but it will help you. The way you think about your husband and treat him, is as if he's crazy. The guy may be depressed because of you treating him so negatively. I don't know what his problem is, but I assure that you are part of it.

You've already made up your mind to leave this guy and now you're looking for people like me to give you some B.S. validation. Personally, I think you are conniving and I don't think you are fair. He was stressed out, you were pregnant, and lots of people are losing their jobs (it's the recession!). You sound extremely selfish. If you love this man, which I doubt you do, then you need to help each other. If not, then get the hell out and you don't need my approval.

Ms. Mystery: This guy needs your support. He is the father of your child and a good father as you say. You need to pull together to get through this. Don't turn against him. Many people are being laid off now as the country sinks into recession. A lot of normal people will be depressed for good reason - he doesn't need medication. He needs your support. It takes a strong woman to support her man and make him a success. Don't let him or your child down. They both need you to stay sane.

Remember, any marriage goes through it's rough times (ask any grandparent). Get past that and you will make a great marriage. It takes two and you need to pull your weight. You are in it for BETTER OR FOR WORSE. Good Luck.