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Question: Please, I need your advice. I am 26 years old and I don't have girlfriend because I'm always shy whenever I'm with a lady. I'm tire of it. How do I start a conversation with a girl that I've never met before? How do I start a conversation so I can have a relationship (love or sex) with the ones I've have met before?

Answers:
Ms. Mystery: I have been asked this question more than anything. Girls are easy to meet! Sure there are some girls who just aren't friendly and if you find one of those, then just walk away. Many girls are open to new friendships which can lead to love or sex. Why do you think our world is so overpopulated? All these baby's came from somewhere.

Whether you've met before or not, all you have to do is strike up any kind of conversation. It doesn't really matter what you say. Don't put a lot of pressure on yourself.

You can say something like "Have you been to this (park/coffeeshop) before?," "What are you drinking/reading?" or "You have beautiful eyes" (only if you mean it). Ask an open ended question that requires an answer other than "yes" or "no". If you're feeling really brave then be funny. Say something like "Wow, that couple in the corner needs to get a room" or tell a joke.

Say something! Anything. Then the girl will respond and then it's your turn. What do you do when you meet new guys? Don't put more pressure on yourself than when you meet guys. Your are simply meeting a new PERSON... perhaps you can be friends, perhaps more... time will tell. Just relax and be yourself. If the girl is interested she'll do her half to keep the conversation going. If not, simply walk on and find someone else to talk to. Remember: Girls are just people.

Mr. Know: You're asking two different questions. It's a lot easier to strike up a conversation with someone you've met before than with someone you don't know.

First of all, women are NOT from Venus. They are not aliens. They have the same wants and needs that you do. And a lot of those women are shy two. Shyness is not gender-specific.

For women you know, you can talk about anything because you've already met. The best way to start the conversation is to ask questions. The best conversationalist is someone who asks questions and listens. Striking up a conversation is all about confidence and practice. You should have no hidden agenda.

If you're trying to pick up a girl, you have to think of it as a numbers game. You're going to get turned down a lot - unless you look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney. But you're going to hit some as well.  It's very important not to sound or act nervous.

This is a tough question for me. I've never picked up a girl because I never looked at it from that perspective. I always tried to just chat with people.

The best way to learn how to talk to women or anyone is to read the book "How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. It's a great book. You can even use it to communicate with aliens. I've read it more than three times (and so has Ms. Mystery). Good luck and Godspeed.

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[Ms. Mystery]

Dear Mass:
A relationship is really like a flower. You have to let it grow at it's own pace. You can't water it too much or too soon, or give it too much sun or you will kill it.

You told this girl too soon how you feel. You should have let it happen naturally. If she had been able to spend more time with you in person she might have started to like you for more than a friend also.

But now that she knows you love her, she's going to be scared away for awhile.

My recommendation is just be a friend and don't push her. It's hard to wait and be calm when you feel the intense feelings of love! But you have to be patient.

You are a wonderful warm person who knows how you feel. I love guys who can express how they feel - please don't change that.

If this girl doesn't love you back there's nothing you can do. Just realize that there are millions of girls in the world. Many more will come along and you will find the perfect one for you.

[mass]

Hi, how are you?

There is this girl with me in the college,

I'm on the 5th year and she's on the 3rd.

She looks at me and smiles..

I started to talk to her on every chance...

one day I managed to get her windowslive ID "just by search!"

I talked to her on msn.

She pretended not to know me at first,

then I told her who I was, and she knew me so I started talking to her. I flirted with her and she was surprised and I think excited. She printed few "!!!s" and was so smooth and with good responding.

We talked about two hours. And we talked about two times later on msn. Because of the exams I could not see her
on the last time. I felt she was cold towards me, and I didn't sleep for several days.

I started chatting with her about love and stuff then I asked her if she was single. She said yes and she asked why?
I told her I had feelings for her, and that I liked everything about her and I love her, and wanted know what she thought. She wrote these (!!!!!)

I was just writing and she said "please stop." She didn't write anything for half an hour then she said ,"I think u too have a nice personality and character, but I only think of u as a friend, and don't want this thing to ruin that, ok?"

I was kind of shocked & said, "Okay, but u have to know that my feelings will always be the same." Then she said thanks.

She stopped replying for another 15 min, and then she said, "Thanx for everything u said, and sorry....don't be mad of me... i gotta go."

I said, "Ok." She said, "Bye bye."

She's still online. Should i talk to her? again? If yes, what should I say? I'm still thinking of her and I don't think I'm gonna see her forever now, because I'm going to leave the country soon.