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My Girl Slept with My Cousin!

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Question: My girl did the dirt with my cousin. I only found out today my heart is broken. What do I do? I'm falling apart.

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Ms. Mystery:  Your girl did the dirt with your cousin!? That absolutely sucks. Of course it hurts. Of course she's not worthy of a single tear from you, and not worthy of your thoughts. And she was never even worthy of being your girlfriend. Telling you all this doesn't help ease your pain right now. It still hurts like hell! And that she did this with your cousin? What the heck was he thinking doing that to you? Unfortunately you can't pick your family.

Your broken heart feels very real. I know, I've had my share of them myself. And unfortunately it happens to EVERYBODY. Look around, everyone has had a broken heart or two or several. Thousands of songs have been written by broken hearts. Listen to the radio and you'll hear song after song about broken hearts.

I have found that it takes 50% of the time you were together to completely get over that person. Unless you keep letting them string you along - don't let that happen because then it might take even longer.

I promise that after the pain has eased and you can see clearly, you will wonder why the hell you ever dated her in the first place. You will feel nothing for her. You will find another, wonderful girl, who won't do this to you. Please don't be the guy who never trusts any other girls after this one "rotten apple."

I know of a guy who caught his girl cheating with his best friend in high school. He's in his late 40s and still won't open himself up to women. He has never been married or even had a long-term girlfriend. Don't let this cheating, lying girl ruin you for future relationships! Don't give her that power over you.

I know of another guy who caught his WIFE cheating with his BROTHER! He got divorced, then his ex-wife married his brother! His broken heart healed and now he realizes that he's actually very lucky and his brother's now stuck with this girl.

I promise you are lucky to find out what she is like now instead of later. Time does heal all wounds.

Mr. Know:  There's no need for you to fall apart. Drop her like a hot potato and don't look back. This girl is bad news. And please, don't try to think of million reasons why you should stay together.

How Do I know if My Husband is Bi, Part 2

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Question: My husband seems to be attracted to our neighbor next door, I just have a very sick feeling that he likes him more than just for a friend. My husband gets upset and looks for him when he is not at home, he mows his grass and, water his lawn for him.... I feel a strange connection between them and I feel very uncomfortable around them. The neighbor does not like me around when he is with my husband, they always sit closer than others, there are so many things that I notice I can't write them all down... Most of all my gut feeling isn't a good one, what can I do to find out for sure?

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Mr. Know: I have some very bad news for you. One thing I have personally learned, being a guy, is that woman's intuition is one of the most powerful forces on the planet. Most men do not have this type of intuition and we are the inferior sex. Personally, without doing any spying, I think that your husband is cheating on you with this man. I find it insane that he would be mowing his lawn. Think about it. If you husband was mowing a woman's lawn, what would you think?

How Can I Get Her to Admit Her Affair?

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Question: Okay guys, a little advice here please, I just found out that 9 months ago my girlfriend had an affair. I only found out because her phone bills went from £30pm to £140pm. When I confronted her she told me it was a female friend who was going through a difficult patch. This did not wash and although I could not prove anything. I kept digging.

6 months later she finally admitted to texting a bloke, again it did not wash so I kept on digging. A few nights later she admitted to meeting him 5 times over the 3 month period. One of these times was at MY HOUSE while i was OUT WORKING for our family !!

She admitted to kissing on these occasions and going to meet him, and meeting him at her friend's house. However she will not admit they were intimate!!!!

I find it hard to believe, if not impossible, that 2 people can have an affair over a period of time and not be intimate!! She said he tried to "go down on her once and she told him to stop and leave." She says that was it that was the only intimate time!! Why cant she TELL ME THE TRUTH???

Them being in my home killed me. Surly being honest about sex won't make me feel any worse.

She says it was never physical on her part, and that she was going through a bad patch with me and he was saying all the right words. She says she never found him physically attractive, and it was all in his patter. She says she never had feelings for him only for the things he said. If this is so why risk a seven year relationship? Why risk leaving 2 children fatherless? Why risk it at all?

She says she loves me and want us to get married and live happily ever after, BUT I NEED to know THE TRUTH. How can I get her to finally come clean and tell me everything? She claims she has but she also claimed for 9 months while I was asking her to come clean that she had not been unfaithful??

Any ideas greatly appreciated.

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Ms. Mystery: Every relationship goes through a rough patch. Just ask your grandparents! It's all a matter of getting past it and forgiving each other and moving forward.

Should I Divorce Him?

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Question: Is it reasonable to want out of this marriage? My husband of 4 years suffers from depression. I made him get treatment when I found out I was pregnant. Now our baby is 8 months old. My husband has been on medication and in therapy for a year and I'm not sure it's working.

He is more pleasant and manages his anger, but he talks about suicide often. On Friday he was fired from job. This is the second time in a year. We are in a financial bind and may lose our house.

First of all, I can't stand the stress of another financial disaster, after the first time he was fired. Second, I am worried about our baby being around such an unstable person, even though he treats our child wonderfully. Should I get out of this relationship?

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Mr. Know: Just reading your question, I wanted to shoot myself. I'm going to give you some blunt answers. You may not

He Hits Me. Should I Leave?

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Question: Why am I the only person to see my husband's temper? I'm married and have a child with a man who hits me all the time and calls me every bad name in the book. I'm the only person who ever sees this side of him.

I talked to his exes and his mother and they all say he's a nice, sweet, calm person and that they've never see that side of him. He was with his exes longer than I have even known him. He tells me he is violent toward me because he cares more about me than any of them. My friends say I bring out the worst in him. He says he loves me and never wants me to leave him. Why does he hurt me? I did file charges against him for the abuse.   

Mr. Know: You need to pack up and leave NOW! My mother was physically abused by my father. She stayed with him for

The Secret to Pleasing a Woman in Bed

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Question: Until 16 days ago, my wife and I made love almost every day. Suddenly  I'm not looking forward to it at all. I'm 43 and she's 34 and we've been happily married for 12 years. I'm the one who wanted it every day. If it were up to her, we'd do it twice a week.

We've been happily married for 12 years. I'm the one who always wanted it every day. If it were up to her we'd do it a couple of times a week. I have a feeling she does it for me out of obligation, not pleasure. This suspicion didn't bother me until two weeks ago when I asked her how similar she thought the feeling inside her vaginal walls were compared to the sensitivity of my penis. I used to think the first few inches in the vagina felt pleasure during sex and expected her to say it felt great for her too. Her answer stunned me.

She said she doesn't really feel anything inside! I need to know she really enjoys sex or I can't reach orgasm. Now that I know she doesn't feel anything inside, I've totally lost interest in sex.

I used to love thinking about sex all day and having fun with our little inside sex jokes, innuendos, gentle kissing and touches, but now it's all gone. My wife says she's happy I haven't talked about sex lately. I am totally and secretly falling apart inside. I've since read that other women have limited feeling of the vaginal walls. I've known for years that she doesn't put fingers inside while masturbating and that didn't mean anything to me until now.

I want to talk to her, but she hates talking about sex, so she would get defensive and feel hurt. If I keep it to myself it will

Wife's Affair Broke Up Marriage: How to Protect the Kids

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Question: I am wondering if I have any rights to protect my children from being around my future ex-wife's boyfriend. They had an affair and broke up our marriage. Now I have strong feelings that the kids shouldn't be exposed to a life around him - or any time with him even though they have not met him yet.

Answer: Ms. Mystery & Mr. Know: This is a great question many divorced parents are wanting to know. First of all, it sounds like you really care about your kids. This can get you far in family court.

We are not lawyers or legal experts, however we do know that many states will allow a provision in the divorce papers stating that the parents cannot have overnight guests of the opposite

Should I Move for Love?

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Question: Should I risk everything and move for love or stay where I am?  I'm nearly 34, never married and no children.  My financial worth has taken an enormous hit over last year. My father has been ill and has no health insurance, and the value of my house has taken a huge hit like many others. I was also laid off for six months.  I'm under stress and trying to sell my house. I am thinking of lowering the price by $25k but will only walk away with about $50k.  If I move I have an offer for a great job, plus a loyal and devoted boyfriend who makes a good income. We've been very good friends for a long while. He keeps hinting that he's 35 and is ready to start a family and tells me I'd make a great mom.

My problem is that I can't leave until I sell my house. Should I drop the price and get on with my life or should I wait until I sell it for the price I want?

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Ms. Mystery: First of all, you are more focused on the money than you are on him. At first I thought you didn't love him, and he loved you and it's easier for you to just be with him after all the misery you've been through lately. But now I'm guessing

Is Phone Sex Cheating?

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Question: I am in an argument with my best friend. Is phone sex cheating? She is married and has three kids and told me she had phone sex with one of her old boyfriends who she was madly in love with before she got married. She says she doesn't think what she did is wrong.

I'm shocked! What do you think? Is it wrong to have phone sex with someone else while you are married? Is that considered cheating?

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Ms. Mystery: First of all, yes your friend was emotionally cheating on her husband by relating that way with another man. You know her husband would see it as cheating. Ask your friend how she'd feel if her husband did the same. If that really wouldn't bother her then she either doesn't love him, or they

How Do I know if My Husband is Bi?

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Question:  My husband likes watching the TV show, "Torchwood" all the time because of all of the guys kissing and having sex. Do you think this means he's bi-curious?

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Mr. Know: Never doubt women's intuition. If you're even asking the question, your subconscious has already answered. The question is, do you want to confront him or not? If you don't want to confront him, look for the signs such as flinging of the wrist, listening to the Village People's YMCA (I like that song and I'm not gay, so maybe not). See if he's sneaking off with the guys - I'm not trying to make you paranoid here, but